Told through the lens of her own experiences, Lois West Bristow’s ability to weave together emotion with the intellectual study of death makes for a thought provoking read. It gave me pause to consider death in a different way, but doing so brought both understanding and peace.Chery Popiel
Dr. Bristow gently holds up her lamp against the darkness of death revealing wisdom and compassion. She has a poetic wisdom that makes her storytelling both compelling and real. Her book offers hope and meaning for life’s end, not as a defeat but as the completion of life.Stephen Jones, PhD
Director, Sarah House
Santa Barbara, California
As soon as I read the stunning poem I knew this book was right for me. And then came the commanding first sentence in the introduction, “I knew that I wanted to be present at my death.” I’ve always imagined my ideal death to be simply falling asleep never to awaken.
As I read the author felt so close. Perhaps because she seemed so vigilantly truthful in all she shares. Perhaps it was the resonance of the soul dimension? Dr. Bristow is a worthy words-smith, gifted in her choice and flow of words. Elegant and direct. The telling of Charles’ dying astounded and held me.
The author and I share common ground—the quest for the sacred, soul, meaning, healing, consciousness. I was struck by Jung’ s quote, “I am and remain in search of myself, of the truth peculiar to myself.”
“Now I am. It is—not was or will be.” Being present. Not arguing with what is. All this was a major turning point for me, unfolding welcomed new perspectives and experiences. The vast and steadfast awareness I experience in meditation or any quiet moment I look within seems compatible with the author’s concept of “keel of contentment,” the “being our selves,” and knowing our “who-we-are-ness.”
When I first read the words “the sacredness of death” I was surprised that I was surprised. Yes, death is sacred and too sacred to miss. I want to be conscious at my death. Being aware makes a difference and even works wonders. Not until reading this book had I truly pondered dying with awareness. This book is timely. It fulfills the promises others have written about it. It’s a gift of truths and inspiration for weaving our way through life and death. I certainly have found it thus. It’s a gem.Jeralyn Scott McCarthy
County Cork, Ireland